Tuesday, August 01, 2006

As we sit here and listen to Nora scream bloody murder, I'm at a loss. Tonight I found everything possible in the house that might be somewhat calming. I gave her a bath with "Calming" bath wash with honey in it and rubbed her down with lavender and chamomile lotion. Then she watched the video her favorite babysitters made of her while I stuffed a peanut butter and honey sandwich, a banana, and milk down her at 9:00. I sang her every @#$^& lullaby I could think of and then rubber her back while saying good night to every body part possible.

Can you tell the frustration is coming to a head?

This morning Nora and I woke up after a fitful night to find Daddy yet again on the couch. After about an hour of stumbling around we both realized it was our 8th anniversary. Oops! Good thing we celebrated last weekend! At that moment we both decided that we can't go on like this anymore. Crying and screaming through the night will have to be endured to get her back to the place where she can put herself to sleep and stay there! We probably won't sleep too much again tonight but (OH MY GOD, she just stopped crying...28 minutes later) rocking her, feeding her, bringing her into bed, and everything else we've tried hasn't worked. A full night's sleep must be had!

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

April & Brian,
Katie, who is now 16, did the same thing. We rocked, patted, offered drinks, brought her to our room, etc. I used to sit by her bed, softly singing, patting her back and waiting for her to drift off to sleep and then crawl, ever so quietly out of her room. But - she would know I was leaving and start screaming again. The only thing she learned from all of this was that if she screamed, Mom or Dad would come to her. Finally, we bought a nice bottle of brandy (for us), read her a story, gave her the last drink of the night, put her in bed and endured the screaming. It took a few nights, but eventually we got our nights back. Hang in there. Oh, Happy Anniversary! Aunt Pam

Anonymous said...

Have you ever watched the Nanny show?(Nanny 911)? I haven't seen it in a while, but she is really good. Anyway, she often shows cases where the family is in tourmoil at bedtime. She suggests that the Mom or Dad stay in the room...not talking and not looking at the child and not even touching the child until they fall asleep. It is a pain for you no matter what, but eventually they learn to fall asleep on their own.

Anonymous said...

Last summer we let Logan scream for a full 45 minutes. She'll get it, Nora is a smart little girl.

Patrick & Lindsay said...

Have you hit that point of exhuastion where the lines between fantasy and reality blur yet? That's when it starts getting fun/scary. Like you fall asleep 5 or 6 times driving home from work, which should scare you, but you're just like, "oh, that was pretty close. think I'll see what's going on with the back of my eyelids." To sleep through the cat/lawn mowers/phone ringing/doors slamming I recommend foam ear plugs and a fan set to medium.

Unplugged said...

Ana went through this stage last month and we were also forced to endure gut wrenching, oh so sad and frustrating, please for her life screams. We had a full 3 nights of an hour of screams,, but she moved past it and sleeps like a champ again. Hang in there...this to shall pass!!!

maybe i should send Taylor your way since you're up all night anyway!!!!

Rorick Family said...

Poor Nora! And poor Mommy and Daddy too! I would suggest a nightlight (is she scared of the dark?) and maybe a fan for noise. We have a LOUD fan in our room so I don't hear the little noises anymore. A constant sound might work for everyone. Another thing we do with Libby is tell her what will go on when she wakes up - When you get up tomorrow, we are going to swing at the park! We can't go until you go to bed though. Good luck!